I know the saying goes, “All good things come to and end,” but why focus on the negative? I promise I’m not trying to drop the classic, albeit outdated, toxic positivity on you. The whole reward and punishment bit is sooo 2012. (Insert valley girl accent.)
All that said, since we can all agree that all good things come to an end, why can we not flip this axiom on its hip and be thankful for endings? That things cease, for whatever reason, means bad things end as well. What if I’m naughty and don’t feel as if I deserve bad things to end, you might ask? Good question, but can we at least consider the possibility? That’s all, just toy with the notion. Fondle it. Look at the granular details of what ozurie is all about. According to The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows (a Christmas gift from good friends) ozurie is feeling torn between the life you want and the life you have.
As we approach the final season of Star Trek: Picard, what are your expectations in life? Star Trek occurs to me here due to the excellent final, time jumping episode of Star Trek: The Next Generation, entitled, “All Good Things…,” in which the tapestry of Picard’s life and the entire series is demonstratively tied together.
How did you arrive at said expectations of your life? Do they fit your unique situation, or is that someone else’s life? Never is it more fitting to say that expectations must be managed or they will manage you, the reader. At some point, we must be okay with Tom Brady not winning another Super Bowl. At some point, we have to be okay with Tiger not winning another major. Lebron… The list goes on.
Sometimes being right doesn’t feel so good. Sometimes all you’re left with is doubt because of right’s finality. Sometimes black and white don’t have gray to debate with.
Are you so consumed with the desire to do difficult things that you don’t think anything can stop you? In this case, thank God for endings. Perhaps this is your warning not to let the fire of desire burn the existing form. Don’t Martha Mitchell effect yourself. (For those that aren’t aware of this early 1970’s reference, Martha Mitchell, the wife of one of Nixon’s cabinet members, essentially called the demise of the Nixon administration before Watergate. She was labeled as crazy and tucked away.) You are not crazy. Not even close. Crazy people don’t ponder such things as we are pondering here.
Where are your empty calories? Empty calories can be contained in more than just cake and wine. Empty calories are consumed just for consumption’s sake. Consumption doesn’t have feelings, so don’t worry about consumption, but you have feelings.
When does being detail-oriented transition from your strength to the millstone around your neck? Time waits for no man—nope, not he, she, or they will time skip one beat for, nor should we want it to.
Another good friend of mine recently gave me Transitions, by Julia Cameron. In it, she writes about ambiguity.
The human heart craves certainty, yet life is sometimes uncertain. In times of ambiguity, doubt, and apprehension, I claim the certain safety of my spiritual connection. Reminding myself that even in the face of difficult change, my grounding in Spirit remains secure. I find ground on which to stand. Spirit connects me to all things. It is timeless and serene. Spirit is the bedrock beneath all experience. When I am threatened and adrift, I remind myself Spirit is an inner fortress, constant and serene.
But what if I can’t feel any connection to Spirit, you may say? It’s not a thing for me and I don’t even call it that. Call it what you will. Labels make no difference here and only distract from the subtle, yet powerful nature of what we’re discussing. Change is the oneness that binds us all, so look for Spirit there. Is it always pleasant? No, but it’s always there.
Understand that grayshift affects us all. Back to The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows, grayshift is defined as the tendency for future goals and benchmarks to feel huge when viewed in advance, only to fade into banality as soon as you’ve achieved them…
Use the above paragraph’s realization to your advantage however you see fit. Toughness looks different to us all. What’s tough for him, may not be tough for them.
Halsey, the pop star, said it best: “Funny how the warning signs can feel like butterflies.” Let that sink in.
As an aside to this subject matter, when writing for Wholly Holistics, I feel in my being that certain words and phrases are meant for individuals who will become a reader, if only for just this once. I feel the potential anguish in the realizations that “my” words cause. It is not lost on me and I’m now sending love to said anguish.
The ending can harken the beginning of something truly spectacular. Allow yourself the time to grieve what was. Allow grief of even the awful things of life, that you would allow another, especially the youngsters among us. For it is in allowance that we find peace.